Point of Reconstruction
When you hear the word reconstruction, what does it mean to you?
What downtown Minneapolis looks like in the early morning fog, from the passenger seat. FYI ROAD CONSTRUCTION!
Are you under re-construction? Have you learned your lessons, made changes and now are moving forward with your life, better and wiser than previously? Have you made amends to those you love or who matter to you in your life? Have you thanked the folks who hold you to a higher standard during your reorganization? Have you reconnected with those you respect and trust that may have been lost in the shuffle, hat in hand?
For me, during my reconfiguration and self-care and healing, which has been a very long process, trust me, I have reached out and mended fences and asked for forgiveness and forgiven perceived slights or missteps as well, as it is a two-way street. We don’t always see eye-to-eye with folks and sometimes something is said and it was not meant the way it came across and when you apologize, it helps to smooth the path and make the bonds stronger.
Being raw and vulnerable is the scariest of things to be with others because they could betray you at that moment and where do you go after that? You’ve exposed yourself and maybe it did not go the way you envisioned, well, guess what, you pull yourself up and you dust yourself off and you keep on keeping on and note it and move forward. Sometimes what you want requires patience and time, because we are all different creatures and we come from different circumstances, so we come around to things slower, with more caution than most people who just look and leap, some of us measure, plan and constantly readjust our expectations and desired outcomes, because we learned the hard way when we were young. (We require patience and time, we burn slower and therefore are more worth the wait.)
Being a long-range planner and not an instant gratification junkie, we are more tempered in our emotions and displays of affection. Yes, we have to warm up to the idea and the concept before we will just throw ourselves upon the fire, accept it. We are the mountain and we will not be moved by minor quakes.
These are all the things I have learned about folks like myself and it is why I write about we, instead of me because I have found this to be true of a lot of my friends and family.
So today, reach out, make that first step, take that leap and trust that you will be received with friendship and who knows, maybe someday, more. Great things take time. My grandparents courted for 6 years, and they had an amazing relationship that was worth the wait.
-namaste my beloveds.
